Wives, be submissive to your husband [subordinate, not as inferior, but out of respect] so that even if some [husbands] do not obey the word [of God], they may be won over [to Christ] without discussion by the godly lives of their wives.

- 1 Peter 3:1

Let’s replay that last part, “that your husband may be changed/won over to Christ without discussion.”

Do you obey God or follow the chatter in your head?

“Maybe if I say it again, maybe if I say it this way, maybe if the therapist says it, maybe, maybe, maybe.”

Trying to “enlighten” your spouse results in them avoiding the topic, and you!

God can “say it” so it gets “heard.”

Stop fighting and start praying!

You may not trust your spouse in certain areas, but you can always trust God.

TODAY: When my flesh says, “If I say it one more time he’ll get it.” I Will Resist!

And your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying, “This is the way, walk in it,” when you turn to the right or when you turn to the left. Isaiah 30:21  

With Love,
Carolyn Dunegan

 Use This in Your Paper Sunday Personalized Scripture Journal

As you reflect on 1 Peter 3:1, take a few quiet moments to write through these prompts:

• Where in my life am I trying to control outcomes instead of trusting God to work through me?
• How do I define strength — does it reflect the world’s view or God’s? 
• What would it look like to cultivate a “gentle and quiet spirit” in my current season?
• Is there a relationship where God is inviting me to reflect Christ more through patience and humility? 

Writing your reflections helps move Scripture from simply being read to being internalized. When you slow down and record what God is teaching you, truth begins to shape your thinking, decisions, and confidence.

Many people find that using a personalized scripture journal creates a focused space to listen more intentionally and return to God’s promises throughout the week.

Frequently Asked Questions

• What does 1 Peter 3:1 mean? 
1 Peter 3:1 encourages believing wives to live in a way that reflects Christ so that their conduct may influence others toward faith. The broader principle applies to all believers: godly character speaks powerfully.

• What is a “gentle and quiet spirit”?
It does not mean weakness or silence. It describes inner peace, humility, and trust in God — strength that is steady rather than reactive.

• How can I develop a gentle spirit?
Through prayer, surrender, studying Christ’s example, and practicing self-control. It grows as we trust God with outcomes.

• Is this verse only about marriage?
While written in a marital context, the principle of Christlike influence through character applies to every relationship.

• Why does God value gentleness?
Because it reflects Christ Himself. True spiritual maturity produces calm confidence rooted in faith.

Prayer Prompt: Lord, grow in me a spirit that is gentle, confident, and rooted in You. Teach me to trust that Your power works best through surrendered strength.